Bonafide, I get it I am a born in. My whole family is in. I have shunned my family that is out for so long I am sure they want nothing to do with me ( why should they?) The only thing I have is a husband (born in) that feels the same way I do and a couple of mixed up little kids. We stopped going to meetings and service in the spring tried to fade ,but it just reached a critical mass and I could not go one more time (husband went a few more times). I really don't know how you keep going when you know what you do. Do you realize that you will have to keep up the facade "the rest of your life" to keep your family happy? Look, now you are jumping through the hoops and they are still not happy with you. What a waste of time! I totally agree with a previous poster, go back to school. I did a few years ago and it really helps, keep pouring yourself into work. I agree $5,000 a mo is great! Enjoy it! Know that I am thinking good thoughts for you!
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Update on me
by BonaFide inwell, in the past couple of months the elders still havent met with me again regarding the porneia accusation.
either they are waiting for the circuit overseer visit next week to ask them what to do, or they wrote to bethel, or the sister decided not to lie anymore, i am not sure.
but seems like the elders are really after me.
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ZZ Top - Your Favorite Songs from them ? Those Texas Bad Boys ?
by flipper ingreat rock and roll and blues guitarists !
loved the cool look with the beards and the tunes !
here's a list of 10 of my favorites !
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How about "I thank you" kisses so good I had to holler for help! (My fave)
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Autumn Greetings!
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dear god,.
the lady reading this .
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How sweet. Thank you.
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JW's who only stay for social reasons are serving out of wrong motives
by yadda yadda 2 inwe know that many jw's are very disillusioned and would probably love to step sideways from their religion.
but they stay because all their friends and family are jw's.
this is especially the case with younger ones and single ones in the organisation, who often have very sophisticated social lives and networks of friends in the organisation.
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We have a lot of friends like this. They are just JW's because they were raised in just like Catholics or any other religion. There isn't even any point in arguing doctrine with them because they are not in that deep anyway. However they are still plagued with guilt of not doing enough, deprived themselves of a college education etc.
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As of tomorrow I will no longer be a JW
by passwordprotected inafter my last post where i asked for advice on how to handle whether i should tell an elder that we've been going to church, i decided to tell a local elder who's related to me through marriage.
this was to save my dad having to 'report' me (i'd told my dad we go to church).
anyway, i had an interesting chat with him and he said some very personally revealing things re.
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Thanks for keeping us posted Mark. I hope you and your wife stay on the same page, maybe she should go with you to the meeting to just get her part over with so she doesn't have to meet with them alone again. I hope your families are still willing to have a relationship with you, then you will have the best of both worlds. Good luck.
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Successful JW/Non-JW Relationships... How do you make it work?
by cognac ini was thinking we could talk about what works for couples who have good jw/non-jw relationships.
maybe we could get ideas from eachother to help improve ourselves and our relationships!.
i'll start.
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We made our unevenly yoked marriage work for about a week. My husband and I were pretty much on the same page but he was a few steps behind. He saw the sleeping in on Sunday, enjoying the kids having breakfast when he got home, next thing you know he joined me for good. I cannot imagine doing this alone. Seeking Help: I am so sorry. Please keep your relationship with your son so that he he knows where your loyalty lies, that will go a long way with him. Tiff: the above posters are correct you need legal counsel. You have a right to half of your marital assets and an attorney will help you freeze them until you can sort this out. Good luck!
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Help needed, how can i ?
by billie jean ini've not been on for a while as i havent felt the 'need' but ive just logged in and read some very interesting posts as usual.
well i'm off to stay with my very witness parents very soon (for a few days, which is long enough) i do love them but its very hard being around them a lot of the time.
im fully aware that we have to come to our own decisions on the matter of realisation but i was wondering if anyone has any tips as to where i could start in craftily helping them, giving them something to perhaps think about ??
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Billiejean, I know where you are. I've tried gentle questioning not about 1914 but about the sex abuse scandals and you just get the "company line" that Jehovah will take care of that or some other nonsense. With my parents, you could bring up something glaringly wrong and they would not notice if their pants were on fire. So my advice is to just try to enjoy their company and maybe do things that revolve around your son and avoid the whole subject unless they bring it up. Be prepared for them wanting you to go to the meeting with them or topics they may bring up to your son. Hope you have a good visit. Let us know what happens.
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Five days without a cell phone. Free of addiction.
by easyreader1970 ini am not what you would call a heavy cell phone user.
i probably use it once per day to check in with the wife about something and maybe call someone to make or break and appointment.
i use less than 100 minutes per month, usually.
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I love the alarm, I love the camera, can't stop texting, and only have friends that are Verizon to Verizon. I'll never be free.
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What's Your View of "Friends"? Are They "Real"???
by minimus inthe older i get, the more i see that most "friends" are not "real friends".
i can count on 1 hand who i consider friends.
i have many enjoyable aquaintances that i socialize with but i doubt they'd really be "there" for you.
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Minimus, I always tell my kids the same thing. You may be popular or think you have a lot of friends but you can usually count your real friends on one hand. I really hate it when people at the KH are referred to as "the friends". Some are quite the opposite of friends. Another poster said there was always a barrier between witness friends, I think it is because baring your soul to them may result in being reported to the elders or be viewed as not totally theocratic.
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WT Controlling Statements About Missing Meetings,Worldly Parent's, Etc.
by flipper inmost of us know having been out of the witnesses that one of the dastardly techniques they use in controlling members is to keep them so busy engaged in other activities that there is absolutely no time to pursue normal family interests or hobbies.
one of the lurking witness friends on the board sent me some quotes from a recent book study.
look at these quotes and see how controlling the watchtower society is becoming.
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It's all the same Flipper (we just left last spring). There is absolutly no excuse to miss meeting and not be visibe in service. I have always worked in a bussiness that required shifts and on call time. I was always in quite a quandary. I couln't work 7-3 because when my weekend time came I would miss Sat and Sun. If I worked 3-11 I would miss Tues and Thu and have to pull 18 hr days on my weekend. I could work nights and be good to no one ( that was always the reccomendation because then my dead body would at least be filling a seat). If I was at work my poor husband would always get the third degree "how long will she "have" to keep working? Like that should be the ultimate goal. Unfortunatly I can't speak to the association with worldy family because they are mostly all in JW.